The Effectiveness of Anxiety Treatments

This is an interesting infographic comparing the relative effectiveness of anxiety treatments vs their popularity. There are some surprises here. Many of the most effective treatments are free and widely available like exercise, spending time with animals, meditation and yoga.
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Missing in Action: Mental Health Community Fails Fraud Victims

fraudclaimsMajor fraud cases grab the headlines for a few days or weeks then forgotten until the next one comes along. We never have to wait long. Media typically focuses on following the money, the colourful perpetrator and occasionally on the victims. Because no violence is used, there is some sort of collusion, and sometimes insurance, fraud appears to be a victimless crime. On the contrary, fraud victims are often devastated by their loses, blamed for their perceived collusion, secrecy, greed, lack of foresight, gullibility, stupidity and so on. Is that why is there so little support for fraud victims from the mental health community?

Google help for victims of fraud and you will find various resources from police forces, governments, lawyers, accountants, and third parties who will help you navigate the legal system. Google psychological help for fraud victims and you get pretty much the same results but more along the lines of how to prevent people from falling for scams. Missing from these results are any psychologist, psychotherapists, agencies, or help lines that will aid victims in dealing with their trauma. Where are those mental health professionals who can help victims deal with their pain and loss? You don’t even want to know what you get when you Google psychotherapist fraud. There are many more psychotherapists accused of fraud than those who specialize in helping the injured party.

Fraud is a global problem that is growing about 4% a year. You will become a victim of swindlers at some point unless you live in a monastery in Tibet. Often it is small: being over-charged for work done on your car; or giving money to a charity that funnels it to offshore accounts. Scams exist in every type of transaction from foreign trade to adoption to human smuggling. It may well be the second oldest profession. Some of the first writing ever found was on Sumerian clay tablets from 3000 BC. They were itemized lists of goods in jars used in trade to prevent loss.

It’s estimated that fraud costs the US economy $400 billion each year.  You find it in every country of the world.  Many of the instances of it is small potatoes, like in the two examples above, but what really adds up are the major frauds like Madoff and Worldcom where billions are lost and many lives are ruined. This cohort variously suffers from PTSD, inability to trust others or themselves, depression, suicide, divorce, strained relationships, low self esteem, and rage. It’s curious to me that professionals aren’t stepping over themselves to help these people.

A report by the School of Psychology at the University of Exeter on why people fall for scams reports that, “Scams cause psychological as well as financial harm to victims. Victims not only suffer a financial loss, but also a loss of self-esteem because they blame themselves for having been so ‘stupid’ to fall for the scam. Some of the victims we interviewed appeared to have been seriously damaged by their experience.”

A charity wants us to recognize that it is the most vulnerable people, often isolated, elderly and those with mental health problems are most at risk of being scammed. The Think Jessica organization is lobbying to have (Jessica Scam Syndrome (JSS) recognized as a disorder to help prevent this vulnerable population from being victimized. But it’s not just the vulnerable who fall victim. Intelligent, skeptical people who think they would never fall for anything suspicious can also become victims.

Anyck Turgeon, an international fraud expert, who has compiled a dictionary of over 500 types of fraud, likes to call fraudsters Financial Serial Killers. Perpetrators are a high risk to reoffend even when they get caught and serve time. The chances of getting caught is slim and the payoff so large that most fraud artists make a career of it. Perhaps if and when vulnerability to fraud appears in the DSM will the mental health community swing into action? Of course the best thing we could do as a society would be to educate citizens to stay away from anything suspicious and drastically increase monitoring and penalties for those who ruin lives.

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The Angry Princess

Quite a nice little video about Anger by a client of mine.

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fraud-preventionFraud is all too common in all aspects of life and business all over the world and it is growing at an alarming rate. This article deals with how you can identify fraudulent activity and prevent becoming a victim of crime.

Do you know how well-organized, skilled and efficient fraudsters have to be in order to steal millions in minutes? As nearly 9:1 fraud scams are committed by first-time offenders and 90% of all work-related fraud is comprised of asset misappropriation schemes, fraudsters are picking tools over the internet that are affecting all of us to different degrees and, leading a rising percentile of emotionally and financially drained victims to commit suicide. A scam can be launched within minutes, cost an average of $140,000, take 18 months to detect, necessitate well over $1M to prosecute and require 10 years to secure assets recovery. More depressing is the fact that less than 10% of stolen assets is typically recovered or returned to victims, at best. Due to prevailing conditions, fraud prevention through public education is a must.

Ironically it is often those who consider themselves too smart to be taken in by fraudsters who are often the victims. If you would like to read the rest of this article, please follow the link to read it on the website.

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Needs Inventory

acquia_cnvc_logoThe following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people. Many people I work with do not have a very good understanding of what their needs are. This list is intended to help them. I appreciate the Centre for Non-Violent Communication for allowing me to post this and thanks to Jane for suggesting I post this.

Initial or circle all that apply to you and make a note about how you get each need met.

CONNECTION continued
to know and be known
to see and be seen
to understand and
be understood
sexual expression



celebration of life
to matter

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Man as an Industrial Palace!

I’ve loved this image since I was about nine. It is still in the window of a herbal store on Danforth Avenue in Toronto as it was when I first saw it. It depicts Man as an Industrial Palace. If you look closely you can see all kinds of men (no women, sorry!) and machines that run the body. It’s quite a piece of engineering and probably best illustrates the state of the art in body mechanics at the time. I think it was drawn in the 1930′s in Germany. Even though I have moved more toward an integritive approach, the historian in me still loves this image of man as a machine! Have a good and intgritive day!

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Career Coaching

I wanted to write a quick update note and say Thank You!!! Working with you really helped to give me encouragement, momentum and strength,  am so thrilled to be moving on to things I am more passionate about! You helped so much to get my thoughts and actions going and I want to thank you so much for all you did to help me!

Kelly, Denver

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Announcing Men’s Group – Starting in January

The Toronto Men’s Group 

will be starting again on the 14th of January, 2014. This is an excellent opportunity for men to come together to focus on their own personal development in a group setting.  Our focus will be to develop a capacity for intimacy, to acquire more self-awareness, to be more responsible for our actions, and to sharpen our skills at intimacy. Our group will create space for you to freely express yourselves and your feelings without judgment in a supportive environment.

This is a your opportunity to develop bonds with like-minded men in a dynamic group setting. We will deal with any issues that come up as a group with the aim of integrating ourselves and increasing our capacity to be more authentic. If you had set a resolution in the past to learn, grow and get past unresolved issues, this is an excellent opportunity to deal with all three.

Whether we have a supportive partner or not, men often lack deep relationships with other men. There was a really good article on this subject, which you can read here:

Time, Place, Cost: Our group meets every other Tuesday from early January until spring at 25 Castle View Ave. from 7:00 to 9:00. The cost of each session is $40. The exact starting date will be determined shortly. Please indicate your interest in joining this group by contacting me directly.

For more details contact me directly by email or phone.

Bradley Foster

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The 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People

How to succeed at self-sabotage

November 18, 2013 ¬†| ¬†Cloe Madane

Most of us claim we want to be happy—to have meaningful lives, enjoy ourselves, experience fulfillment, and share love and friendship with other people and maybe other species, like dogs, cats, birds, and whatnot. Strangely enough, however, some people act as if they just want to be miserable, and they succeed remarkably at inviting misery into their lives, even though they get little apparent benefit from it, since being miserable doesn’t help them find lovers and friends, get better jobs, make more money, or go on more interesting vacations. Why do they do this? After perusing the output of some of the finest brains in the therapy profession, I’ve come to the conclusion that misery is an art form, and the satisfaction people seem to find in it reflects the creative effort required to cultivate it. In other words, when your living conditions are stable, peaceful, and prosperous—no civil wars raging in your streets, no mass hunger, no epidemic disease, no vexation from poverty—making yourself miserable is a craft all its own, requiring imagination, vision, and ingenuity. It can even give life a distinctive meaning.

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